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Today is International Day Against Homophobia.  I am going to use this day to concentrate on more than my little world with my little (in the grand scheme of things) problems.

I am fat.  My husband is an emotionally unavailable workaholic.  My daughter has anorexia and bulimia.  My son has Type I Diabetes.  None of us will ever be persecuted for these things.  None of us will ever be fired from a job due these things.  None of us will ever be kicked out of our families for these issues.  None of us will ever be denied a job for theses problems.  None of us will ever be beaten for these things.  None of us will ever be denied the right to have health insurance provided to us by our spouse's job for these reasons.  None of us will ever be denied the right to hold the other's hand while they lay dying in a hospital bed for these things.  None of us will be barred from the others' funeral by family members because of these things.  None of us will be driven to suicide due to the rampant hatred and bullying society will dump on us due to these issues.

None of us will ever know what it feels like to be a gay man or lesbian woman in American in 2012.  All the types of discrimination noted above and countless others are perpetrated against millions of homosexuals in America every day.  Why?  All the answers that have traditionally been given to that little three letter question are unacceptable.  There are no real reasons.  There are justifications that small minded people make up to soothe their own consciences for spreading hate.  There are Bible verses quoted to absolve those who hate from blame for their own idiocy.  There are talking points spouted by talking heads to rationalize away their prejudice.  None of these things qualify as answers to the question of "Why?"!

There is no answer because there is no excuse.  No real reason for the continued maltreatment of a large portion of the American and World-wide population.  This is 2012 for Christ's sake.  What the hell is wrong with people?  If Adam marries Steve, how does that affect you or your marriage or your kids?  They don't want to have sex in your living room, they just want the rights that my husband and I have as legally married spouses in The United States of fucking America.  I don't think that it's too much to ask that a couple who love each other and want to make their commitment to one another legal and binding should be able to do so without limits and without the hatred of those surrounding them.

I realize that certain groups of Americans will never be able to embrace the gay culture due to the exceedingly small size of their brains.  We have to keep fighting so that enough of us are able to accept and embrace gay and lesbian couples to override those small minded individuals.

Don't worry, my next post will be all about me and my problems again.  But try to take today to think outside yourself and your problems to at least give a thought to those who have to fight for their rights.